Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Being in Love

...with your manuscript, that is. Right now, I'm having a fight with my manuscript. I wish it had a face (so that I could punch it). But even though I sort of hate it right now, I totally love it, too. Which got me to thinking about how our relationships with our manuscripts is a little like being in love in high school.
  • Love-hate relationship: You love it. SO much. Like forevers love. But even though you think this is the ONE, you also sometimes sort of hate it. Does it have to be so stubborn about change? Does it have to keep you awake at night? 'Course, we all know those violently passionate ones: the fights are bitter, but the make-up sweet. So even though you struggle with this manuscript, you know it'll be SO worth it. Unless, of course, you break up first.
  • Sticky-sweet love: You love it like forever. You write it's name in your notebook, dotting the "i"s with hearts. You picture it in the bookstore, waiting for you. You adore it. ...but you love it so much, you'll never change it, not really. And that picture of it in the bookstore, waiting for you, is probably never going to happen in real life because you can't change it.
  • The bad-boy relationship: You're always fighting. You want to go one way, it wants to go another. Your loved ones tell you he's not good for you, but you ignore them. You know you can make this one work, you can change him into the manuscript you want him to be...but sometimes you've just got to let go.
  • The he's-just-not-that-into you relationship: You want to write mysteries. But YA is so hot right now! So you deny your true love and go for the pretty boy. But that sort of thing never works out...in the end, you're just going to hurt both of you.
  • The baby-daddy relationship: You get so much from this one--I'm talking sequels. You started off with him, now you've got six more sequels running around the house. Problem is, you're only with him 'cause you got so much invested in him. Not only have you worked with him, but think of all the time you spent working on the little ones that came after him. You can't let go of him, can you? But remember: writing shouldn't be monogamous. Branch out, find new loves!
  • True love relationship: You love it. It loves you. When you're together, you're both singing. Sure, there's hard times. But you work them out together, never in a frustrated, oh-just-fine sort of way, but in a compromising, give and take sort of way. You accept his weaknesses and work to fix them. You focus more on what will make him better.
So, what's your relationship like with your manuscript? Me, I'm in a love-hate relationship, hoping it turns into true love!

13 comments:

KLo said...

One of my readers, a very astute young lady, looked at me after reading my manuscript and compiling a list of suggestions. She saw the tears in my eyes and said, "You have GOT to stop being married to your work."

She was absolutely right, and your post is right on : )

Lenore said...

Hilarious! Great post :)

lotusgirl said...

great comparison! Oh, to have the true love!

PurpleClover said...

This is hilarious! Thanks for the breakdown. I may have to reassess my relationship with my manuscript.

Carrie Harris said...

I think my current manny is a bad boy, but I can change him? Right? RIGHT?

Ello said...

Man this is perfect! I am definitely in the love-hate relationship. sigh.

PJ Hoover said...

True Love Relationship for me.
I adore my manuscripts, but as oh so willing to help them change! Because deep down they really want to reach perfection.

Funny, funny post!

Robyn said...

I love my manuscript most of the time. Today? It's definitely a hatin' thing!

Litgirl01 said...

LMAO!!! Beth...that was hysterical! Love it! My WIP and I are on the outs...but we always seem to find our way back to each other.

Btw...my fave is the "he's just not that into you"

Shorty said...

Incredibly creative! Great post! Had me laughing and nodding the whole way through. ;)

PS... I recently changed by URL just a bit. Sorry for the inconvenience.

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Davin Malasarn said...

Hilarious! Hmmm...I'm sort of in that post-break-up-still-living together mode. I keep thinking I finish the book and then I or someone else comes up with a great addition and I end up going back to it even though a part of me is so ready to send it out into the world.

Kelly H-Y said...

What a great post! I hope you don't end up having to punch yours! :-) Oh my ... a few of mine might be in the sticky-sweet phase, because I know they need to be changed a bit, but haven't yet discovered just the right way to do so!

beth said...

Wow! I'm so glad y'all liked this! I'll have to delve into my well of wit for some more of this! :)