tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post1065186587947069815..comments2024-02-27T07:05:52.851-05:00Comments on Beth Revis: What Should You Expose Yourself To?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11431700962951592287noreply@blogger.comBlogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-48799336554152562622010-04-28T07:47:20.637-04:002010-04-28T07:47:20.637-04:00So true.. With the Internet, there are so many cha...So true.. With the Internet, there are so many chances for negativity. But, it's a choice. :) Love this post, Beth. Kudos.Keri Mikulskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10674081854220914215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-86441514909005168772010-04-27T22:30:50.971-04:002010-04-27T22:30:50.971-04:00I love that quote by Edison. This is a fantastic p...I love that quote by Edison. This is a fantastic post and discussion, Beth. Thank you for providing positive experiences on your blog. <br /><br />BTW - I enjoyed your interview with Authoress.Myrna Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13534358757278599925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-86482206543626491672010-04-27T22:13:38.685-04:002010-04-27T22:13:38.685-04:00I love this. It applies to everything really, not ...I love this. It applies to everything really, not just online experience. I have (had) a friend I had to let go because she was filled with so much negativity it started affecting my own outlook and perceptions. <br />I choose to surround myself with love, positivity, and kindness...Angeliquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16390888264309430243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-25734101365945774812010-04-27T15:26:20.380-04:002010-04-27T15:26:20.380-04:00I choose postive.
I choose uplifting.
I choose t...I choose postive. <br />I choose uplifting. <br />I choose to believe in the best of people.<br /><br />That is my choice and even when the world calls me naive for it, I will continue to choose it. Even one small light pierces darkness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-5582760492762683752010-04-27T13:01:09.448-04:002010-04-27T13:01:09.448-04:00I heard about this on this post:
http://stiryourte...I heard about this on this post:<br />http://stiryourtea.blogspot.com/2010/04/winner-whiner.html<br /><br />It's such a shame when people lash out at the people who are trying to help them. If our manuscripts aren't ready, they aren't ready. If our queries our sub-par or it's not a right fit, or whatever, we're going to receive rejections.Theresa Milsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03477761307315565259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-1491203976854237232010-04-27T10:56:46.971-04:002010-04-27T10:56:46.971-04:00GOOD stuff, Beth! I saw that post and wonder (hope...GOOD stuff, Beth! I saw that post and wonder (hope) that she learned a valuable LIFE lesson.Christina Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01799776834213400246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-1831874531751715962010-04-27T10:19:18.950-04:002010-04-27T10:19:18.950-04:00Great post! I completely agree. And I just wanted ...Great post! I completely agree. And I just wanted to say congrats! I just read your interview on Miss Snark's site. Thanks for sharing your story!<br /><br />Now...just rub off some of that success on me! =)Kathryn Packer Robertshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16506942804607936833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-32607869617632065022010-04-27T01:29:19.352-04:002010-04-27T01:29:19.352-04:00Sometimes I go to sites like that to laugh. (yes, ...Sometimes I go to sites like that to laugh. (yes, I am evil) But I don't stay long, or go often for precisely the reason you stated. It gets too depressing.<br /><br />Mostly I just wonder, is this going to make them a better writer? Does dwelling on the negitive sides of publishing and rejections going to help them WRITE? Probably not. <br /><br />And that's my criteria. If it takes energy away from my writing, it doesn't stay around long. :)Miriam Forsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08773194271144793485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-82387012275954886902010-04-26T23:13:27.350-04:002010-04-26T23:13:27.350-04:00Wow. I expose myself to great established authors,...Wow. I expose myself to great established authors, debut authors, fellow writers, agents, publishers, writing groups/sites. When I read negative things from aspiring or etablished writers, I don't comment and move on. Misery loves company.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing this, Beth.Tyhitia Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14070000168178880911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-21111122030260015642010-04-26T21:18:40.446-04:002010-04-26T21:18:40.446-04:00Absolutely fabulous post. "You are what you e...Absolutely fabulous post. "You are what you eat" was an expression I heard a lot growing up and I think it applies here: "You are what you read, listen to, and choose to react to". I read that poor, deluded author's attack on agents (and personally naming them? OMG!!) and was horrified by it. <br /><br />It's all about the glass being half full.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03402266791214015301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-4633728312089891112010-04-26T20:20:51.998-04:002010-04-26T20:20:51.998-04:00I had no idea about the blog. I do try to read pos...I had no idea about the blog. I do try to read positive blogs and help other starting bloggers and aspiring authors by reading and commenting on their blogs. I agree totally with you. We have a choice on what we read and say on the Internet. <br />I already spend too much time on blogs given that I work so I don't want to spend it on negativity.Natalie Aguirrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03756087804171246660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-53567186244536951622010-04-26T20:09:57.033-04:002010-04-26T20:09:57.033-04:00Absolutely agree with you 100% Beth!!! Superbly ar...Absolutely agree with you 100% Beth!!! Superbly argued.<br /><br />Life is pretty difficuly all on its own. I choose to expose myself only to positive influences in my life now. I rarely watch TV anymore and most of my social life is done via email, internet and so on. I have even distanced myself from one or two so-called friends who only wanted to put me down.<br /><br /><br />I also expose myself to my husband - but only at night and I DO have a wedding ring after all...!Ann Marie Wraighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14524746255813452836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-89381289334936755612010-04-26T17:34:19.728-04:002010-04-26T17:34:19.728-04:00Appreciate this, thank you.Appreciate this, thank you.Karen Langehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18177923284595298347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-54962720969422819862010-04-26T15:30:52.428-04:002010-04-26T15:30:52.428-04:00Positive thinking! This is a great post, Beth. Tha...Positive thinking! This is a great post, Beth. Thank you!Michelle D. Argylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09696465137285587646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-19135976915609927432010-04-26T14:47:41.673-04:002010-04-26T14:47:41.673-04:00Yay! What a wonderful post and a wonderful messag...Yay! What a wonderful post and a wonderful message, Beth! I choose to expose myself only to positive information. The world has enough ugly in it all by itself. I refuse to seek it out or absorb it willingly. :-)Shannon O'Donnellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17299313309059235876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-69211328118812670942010-04-26T14:39:20.215-04:002010-04-26T14:39:20.215-04:00Beth, I think I saw that post (from that angry aut...Beth, I think I saw that post (from that angry author) before many were commenting on it. I was a little taken back. It's true, we need to watch what we say in the internet. You never know who may be reading.Carolyn V.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15456210036213016603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-87566784936688298852010-04-26T14:37:04.304-04:002010-04-26T14:37:04.304-04:00I so love that quote! Exposing yourself is exactly...I so love that quote! Exposing yourself is exactly that - a risk, a chance, and why would you want to let the poison in? I need all the uplift I can get. I'm drawn like a moth to people who are successful, positive, warm and encouraging. Because that's who I want to be. <br /><br />Plus they're just more fun.Susan Kaye Quinnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07348197999397141067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-21520892180198887832010-04-26T14:33:15.077-04:002010-04-26T14:33:15.077-04:00I browse the internet with the mantra Protect the ...I browse the internet with the mantra <i>Protect the work</i> firmly running through my head. I steer clear of anything with too much negativity or drama (the blog mentioned in your post today would absolutely qualify!) or makes me doubt my own work, or makes me feel somehow "less"or as if I am not part of a very exclusive clique.<br /><br />I adore sites that talk about books in a way we can learn from without tearing down (your recent discussion on love triangles being an excellent example!) or discusses craft or all around human-ness.<br /><br />As I recently talked about over on Shrinking Violets, I have just radically reconsidered and rethought all the blogs and websites I was visiting. I think as we move through different stages of our careers, we will need different things from the internet and protect the work will also take on different meanings.<br /><br />And I'm beginning to think that all blogging platforms need to include a warning in big, block letters when people first sign up to blog: Editors and Agents DO check the web to see what sort of person you are. :-}Robin Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02960833482145500665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-18823923515677852082010-04-26T14:23:27.830-04:002010-04-26T14:23:27.830-04:00I can imagine that the journey to publication is a...I can imagine that the journey to publication is a frustrating process. What am I saying - I know it is. I got to witness the sadness on my mom's face every time she got another letter rejecting the work she had put her heart and soul into.<br /><br />The only thing that I imagine would be more frustrating would be having that door slammed in your face forever. That is essentially what that woman did (found a cached copy of the post in question). It may have stunk getting told no a few times, but hearing the crash and burn of your writing career as the smoke burns your eyes? That's got to be worse. Why would you do that to yourself?<br /><br />I fully agree that what you expose yourself to has an impact on the person you can become. I don't watch angry, violent movies anymore because they don't make me feel happy. I have a hard time watching horror films because they make me scared. The same thing goes for books. I don't want those emotions so I keep myself away from them. I also have distanced myself from personal influences that just seem to ooze drama from every pour. I can't help but think that if I could surround myself with happiness, light, and kittens all day, I would feel that in my heart.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03782164561790596425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-41314554710526582612010-04-26T14:08:23.682-04:002010-04-26T14:08:23.682-04:00Truly inspirational post, Beth. I love this. I hav...Truly inspirational post, Beth. I love this. I have no idea what this blog is that you're referring to, but I'm glad I haven't stumbled across it. Rejections are hard enough without having others fuel anger on top of sadness. But rejection is a part of this business--every business. I think the hardest thing about rejection in publishing is that it feels so personal. We pour our hearts and souls into our writing--yet like any business, wanting is not getting, but DOING might give you a chance. Complaining? It only ever backfires. Complaining publically? Gads, that's just madness, and pretty dang ugly.<br /><br />So glad I saw your post today. Well said.Carolina M. Valdez Schneiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11589934533051907801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-83656260166267512152010-04-26T13:28:20.336-04:002010-04-26T13:28:20.336-04:00Great post. I'm glad you point out that we con...Great post. I'm glad you point out that we control how we react to rejection. I've been rejected. Does it help me at all to attack the agents who rejected me? No. The best thing for me to do is attack my work and ask what I can do to improve it. That's what I've been working on, and it has helped. Hopefully soon I'll find an agent who can get passionate about it, but for now rewriting is the thing.lotusgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06663641163048764869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-74963095088186956682010-04-26T11:52:40.951-04:002010-04-26T11:52:40.951-04:00I try to surround myself (when I want company) wit...I try to surround myself (when I want company) with positive, constructive people. I don't like being around people who thrive on drama (especially if they create their own) or gossip. What wastes of energy those activities are!Shannon Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07824123805925551656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-27369076267790929852010-04-26T11:30:21.229-04:002010-04-26T11:30:21.229-04:00Wonderful post and wonderful quotes. When you'...Wonderful post and wonderful quotes. When you're feeling bad you sometimes want to have a moan with other people but it's so much better to go and read something positive and uplifting and to find a way to turn a bad situation around.<br /><br />As many others have said life is just too short.Alix https://www.blogger.com/profile/04684209302932310537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-88514916706017538882010-04-26T11:11:49.041-04:002010-04-26T11:11:49.041-04:00I've learned the hard way that associating wit...I've learned the hard way that associating with anyone whose outlook tends toward the bitter, the negative, the angry, the self-styled martyr will take even the best in life and turn it nasty. <br /><br />Thanks for your hope-filled attitude.Yat-Yeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04028075516122778317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164206822403278866.post-12100318678345709642010-04-26T10:32:39.523-04:002010-04-26T10:32:39.523-04:00Oh a most excellent post! I choose to surround mys...Oh a most excellent post! I choose to surround myself with as much positive stuff as I can because I know I can get misanthopic and that way leads to the La Brea Tar Pits. I've been stuck there, once, and I don't want to get stuck there every again. I have to look for hope, seek it out, or I would get too depressed.<br /><br />Thanks.Bish Denhamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13359927719391990534noreply@blogger.com